Anxiety is different for everyone. For me, it’s a heavy weight on my chest that I can’t seem to get away from or failure to catch my breath during a panic attack. It is a very scary feeling and something I would never wish upon my worst enemy. It’s also very scary to open up about it to others. I never believed that I would have anxiety, I always thought I was pretty care free and would be able to figure out whatever situation was thrown my way calmly. However, through the stresses of life and school, I have developed some anxiety and luckily have found a few ways to deal with it to make me feel better and more aware of what’s really happening around me.
It helps me, especially during panic attacks, to be squeezed. Honestly, that’s just about the only thing I’ve found that actually helps so far. I think it just gives me a sense of surroundings and grounding and knowing that I am safe. For the feeling of weights on my chest, I often have found that talking to someone helps the most. Most of the time I discover that something has been bottled up or bothering me for a while and that I finally needed to let it out and let someone else hear. I have a problem with letting things build up and trying not to talk about it but I’m also discovering that that does not work for me. I am getting better about expressing my feelings effectively. I have found that after I talk to someone about why I may be feeling anxious I feel a literal weight lifted off of my chest.
Another thing that I have used to help me in the past with my anxiety is smelling lavender. Essential oils are amazing and can truly help in many situations but my absolute favorite essential oil in lavender. Smelling lavender when I start to get a nervous or anxious feeling is so beneficial. This goes for any little time that I feel nervous or scared as well. It calms me down and re-centers my brain so that I can focus and stay calm. Honestly, I use it whenever I get the chance. Even if I’m just walking through Target and see it displayed on the shelf. I have also tried different apps such as Headspace that provide meditation videos and recordings that can help you re-center yourself and focus on breathing. I also love practicing yoga when I am feeling anxious. It is a time for me to solely focus on myself and how I can help and heal my body and brain in the best way possible.
All of these are amazing starts to dealing with my anxiety but honestly, the best yet hardest coping method is talking to someone. Whether it’s your mom, your dad, siblings, best friends, boyfriends, girlfriends, whoever. I cannot stress to you enough how it important it is that you do not suffer in silence. It only makes it worse. I am by no means an expert on this topic but I wanted to share with you all my experience and the ways that I have found to cope with these in the best way that I can.
I didn’t write this post just so that you could better understand my anxiety or a few tips to maybe manage yours but I did it to let you know that you aren’t alone if you suffer from anxiety as well.
I wrote this a long time ago but was nervous about posting it. I don’t know that everyone knows that I have anxiety or knows how I deal with it so it puts me in a very vulnerable place. But, honestly, I was inspired by Lady Gaga to speak out about how I deal with it. Recently, she has started to speak out about how mental health is an issue today and that it should be taken more seriously in society. I genuinely could not agree more and I felt that I needed to reach out and let someone know that they aren’t alone. I’m not sure if this will help you but I’m hoping that it encourages someone to start having a healthy conversation with someone about their issues and what’s going on inside. Having a voice is beautiful and using a voice is beautiful. Please don’t be afraid to use yours.
I want you to know that you are so much more than your anxiety, and so am I. Your anxiety, depression, issues or whatever you have going on does not define you. You define you. Personally, I am a student at NC State, I find that I am generally a very happy and very positive person. I am more than my anxiety tries to make me. I am successful, worthy of love, worthy of happiness and worthy of everything I desire. The reason I am posting this now is that I am at a place in my life where I am genuinely happy, content and in love with life. It doesn’t always stay like that and I’ve gone through many trials to get to this place but I want you to know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. There is a way to define yourself the way you want to, not the way that your issues tell you to. It took me a while to recognize this, but I am in charge of my own destiny. As cheesy as that sounds, it couldn’t be truer. I am responsible for using all the amazing things that God has blessed me with and make a life of it. I haven’t mastered this yet and I don’t know that I ever will but I want you to know that it is possible. You are loved, cherished and important. Never forget that.